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I have the tendency to just, like, jabber on.' That's the point, I remind her. Quickly, that warm self-deprecation returns. I've been told not to let it run over - Tonra has another interview to get to - so I tell her we better wrap up. For me it's really terrifying, and suddenly I was writing it from a terrified perspective of my own, thinking, 'How would I actually deal with this?'' 'I mean, she obviously isn't aware that she doesn't know who people are anymore, but just that idea - you can be totally in love with someone, or you can have a child, and then you just don't know who they are. I started writing it about something else, and it was like- bleurgh!' - she makes a wretching sound, like she's exorcising fear and guilt in one expulsion of breath - 'OK! We're writing about this now, brain.' 'I guess in the back of my head it was like, this is happening within your family, and this is happening to your grandmother, and I guess that just came out through this song. 'I hadn't seen her for ages, and the accounts of things were from my mum,' she says. For Tonra, that person was her grandmother. If you've known someone with dementia (or even if you haven't) it's a heartbreaking listen. And you know you are doing the right thing.' But she isn't coming back for me 'cause she's already gone / But you will not tell me that / Cause you know it hurts me everytime you say it. In 'Doing The Right Thing', Tonra puts herself in the place of a person whose dementia is forcing them out of touch with reality: 'When it's dark, I'll call out in the night for my mother. The most profoundly moving track on the album isn't about a dying relationship, though, but an eroding mind. 'There's one which is kind of like a bit of a revenge - not a revenge - but I wrote a song called 'Love' that was really like a, 'Fuck you! I really hope you know who you are.'' Presumably there are also people in her life - or who've left her life - who wrongly assume songs were written with them in mind. But I had to write it, and I wrote it, and I can't take it back, and that's how it is now.'' 'I had to explain to her, and say, 'I really am sorry. 'My mum found it very hard to deal with the fact that I'd said that,' she admits. In an older track called 'Smother', she sings, 'I’m sorry if I smothered you / I sometimes wish I'd stayed inside my mother, never to come out.' It wasn't an easy line for her mother to digest. It's not the first time she's felt conflicted in this way. It's how I feel about a situation, it's not necessarily the reality of the situation.' 'It wasn't a case that I was sharing that very intimate detail, but it was more, I just didn't want to upset the person who I'm writing the song about. It's a line on 'No Care', halfway through the album: 'There has only been one time where we fucked, and I felt like a bad memory.' Her concern wasn't for herself though. There's only one small moment on Not To Disappear that played on Tonra's mind. It's kind of the point where I'm like, 'This is who I am, so if you don't like my writing then hey, we probably won't be friends, because you're literally reading the inside of my head. 'When the first record came out, I was like, 'Oh no, people are being mean about it.', I actually don't really care. 'I feel quite strong in the fact that sometimes I can write things that make me look vulnerable,' she explains. She's found a sense of empowerment in being so emotionally open. She doesn't have a low opinion of herself though. 'Being really selfish all the time isn't the greatest way to be.' 'A lot of my writing's always been very self-absorbed,' she says at one point. Transcribing her words, with the punctuated bursts of laughter removed, it would be easy to paint her as someone with a fairly low opinion of herself.

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There are also glimmers of a wry, self-deprecating humour - 'No-one asks me for dances because I only know how to flail' - a humour which frequently weaves its way into our conversation.

It's not easy to find the poetry in such stark, unsexy sentiments - but somehow, Tonra manages it. Daughter reveal video for 'How', announce massive Brixton show

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